Pains of Nene.

 

I was watching a Nollywood movie " pains of Nene", and I was wondering why some married women actually allow a third party in the name of friends ruin their home. The movie basically is about a married woman who befriends a group of women despite her mother's warnings. She takes every bit of advice they give to her not realising their hidden agenda to send her out of her husband's house so they can lay their hands on her husband's wealth. First of all the man is everything a woman desires. He's rich, handsome, caring, he's faithful, a loving father to their kids, he spoils her silly with money he's the perfect man with no flaws. You know the kind of man you only see in the movies. Yep!! That movie perfect man. Bottom-line they succeeded in sending her out of her matrimonial home and planted a lady in the home to help them with their evil plans.

 

they are always the first to tell you all he did wrong.

 

 

I don't need soothsayers to tell me that most marriages failed because someone let a third party in. Before you remind me that I'm not married and don't have the right to advice married women, just so you know I don't need to be married to know that friends can be the best in the world but can be the worst when you allow them in your marriage. Bad friends can effectively ruin your marriage 

 with a snap of a finger.  

Some married women should ask themselves,

• Why is my friend/friends so bothered about my marriage? 

• Why is my friend‎/friends the first to bring the news about my husband’s infidelity to me? 

• Why doesn't my friend/friends have anything good to say about my husband?

• Why does my friend/friends disrespect my partner? 

 

she envy's what you have.

 

 

• Why does my friend/friends want my to leave my home after a little fight with my husband? 

• Why does my friend/friends know everything about my husband even to the smallest detail? 

• Why does my friend/friends ignore my husband when we're together but is nice and playful with him when I'm not around? 

• Why does my friend/friends think I made the wrong choice marrying my husband? 

Married women should ask themselves these questions and more. Running to your friends every time something happens in your home is putting the fate of your family in their hands.

depending on your friends more than your husband will cause more harm than good in your home.

 

 

 Realise that the majority of the advice your friends give to you about your husband is not out of the love they have for you but pure jealousy and envy. 

They envy what you have and desire what you have. Some destroy what you have because they can't have it. 

Then again why should you as a married ‎ruin your family based on hearsay and not facts. 

Well I don't have much to say but the conclusion of this matter is that you as a married woman should be careful with who you allow interfere with your marital challenges. It’s not everyone that wants to see you happy. Don't allow a third party in your marital affair it's a big NO! save yourself the stress of running to one prayer house to another or accusing your village witches of what you clearly brought upon yourself.